Saturday, September 18, 2010

How can a Christian listen to others and be a people's helper ?

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A Christain can be a great help to others if he or she just learns how to listen to others with some simple skills and techniques.There are times we love to give advice to others and keep on talking without first understanding the need of others.In order to understand others and offer our help in the most effective way, listening will always be the first step in the helping process that any Christian should never be ignored.The following 4 keys are important tips for helping others :

1.Eye Contact : It is not just to show our respect for others  with our appropriate eye contact,it is also a way to understand others by observing their facial expression and body language as well.For example,tears will always indicating that some kinds of hurt is taking place deep down in one’s inner being. That is a sign for any Christian helper to play more attention on that particular issue of the one who is crying . 


2.Emotion :  It is important for any Christian helper to identify different feeling of the one who is telling his or her own story.There are more than 400 terms to describe each feeling such as happiness,pain,lonely, joy,stress,     sad,depress,bitterness,hopeless,longing for,anger and so forth.A Christian helper need to understand the feeling within the conversation of others and help them to understand their own feeling as well.It is because sometimes the one who is speaking might not fully aware of all the feeling involved in his or her problem. 

3.Summarize : There are times the one who need helps just want to keep on talking but without understanding the real problems behind the speech.It is good to have the Christian helper to summarize the problems in point form after that person has finished sharing his or her own story.It is not just a way to show that real listening has been taken place during the conversation but it also serve as a reflection for that person to understand what he or she has just said.That person will then has a clear picture on what the real problem really is in his or her own life. 

4.Prayer : A Christian helper need not act like a counselor at all times and in fact, a Christian counselor needs more training than the normal Christian helper who just wants to offer listening and support to others.There are times,you will find that your advice and opinion are just not that helpful to others but offer a prayer right at the moment ,can be more powerful and helpful to others than anything thing else. Pray for the person and ask God to intervene in that problem and show His presence and love to that person; it may be the most useful way to help that person right at that moment.Just let God do His part and watch what will happen after.God is so powerful and merciful in answering our prayer.  

Conclusion :

The Holy Spirit will always be the comforter of Christians and will always teach us how to pray according to His will. If Christians can give all glory to God and see how Jesus can help others through a listening process offered by any Christian helper. More people will experience the love of Jesus and praise God with a humble attitude.That will surely lead more people getting closer to the Christ and experience all the riches and love of Jesus.Amen.

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          How to understand and support your pastor ?

          What do you know about a pastor? Is the pastor more holy than other ?Is the pastor free from sin and temptation ? Is the pastor a human or a superman? Questions like that will always come to our mind. It is better to know the journey of a pastor ,so that we will see the job of a pastor from a different perspective.

          1. The pastor is nothing but a called person from God

          God can use anyone in this world to accomplish His will if He wants to. But some Christians will receive a special calling from God to be a pastor and it is totally God’s sovenighty. He never called a perfect Christian to do such a job since there is no perfect Christian in this world. In fact, many pastors are so weak in many ways that they always try to disobey or avoid the calling in the beginning. The pastors know that it is never an easy job as a pastor but to response on God’s calling, they accept it by faith and obedient as a result.

          2. The pastor is a person who need prayer all the times

          Who will be the first person that the devil wants to attack in the church.? Of course it will be the pastor. Why ? It is because the pastor is the sherperd of the church and the leader who will motivate and teach Christians to share the gospel to the world. The pastor should be a person who will always preach God’s word and win the lost souls for Christ. That means he is always trying to stop people from going to hell. No wonder the Satanic force will surely wants to attack the pastor all the times in order to destroy God’s church as a result. That’s why a pastor will always face temptation and attack and sometimes more than the general Christians of the church. No wonder you need to pray for your pastor everyday and ask the Lord Jesus to send His angels to always protect the pastor from being attack.It is your job to pray for your pastor everyday.

          3. The pastor is a human who will sometimes feel discourage and lack of faith as well

          Don’t think that a pastor who always encourage you to have faith in God will never be discouraged in his daily living.The pastor is a just a human and not a superman.He will always experience stress and failure from the church members and also anything happen in his life as well.We need to understand the pastor as we expect others to understand us.We have to love the pastor and always encourage him when we sense that the pastor might be upset on anything.It is better to be an angel to your pastor and show your support and love to the servant of God at all times.It is always a blessing to have a pastor in your life,so make sure you will treasure this God-send sherperd for you and your church. Do you know that there are many churches in this world which has no pastor at all or for a long time?If you have one,just treasure whoever you have.He may not a person who you will like to be with at all times but try your best to show respect and submissive to your pastor as long as he or she is leading and teaching everyone according to the Bible.

          Conclusion :

          Your pastor may not be a perfect person and will sometimes make mistakes and even committed to sin as well.When things like that happen,don’t judge your pastor because God will do this part and you are not the one to judge others.However,you can show your opinion with love and always express your forgiveness in Christ.That will be the best way to rebuild your pastor when he or she is down and fall from sin.If every Christian can love the pastor of the church,the pastor will surely do a better job and fulfill God’s will in a better way.
          May God bless you and your pastor as well.

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